If only we could see ourselves as everyone else sees us, especially during those times when we are at our lowest emotionally, facing adversity and feeling stuck. Our potential, capability, wisdom and strength is no less real in those difficult times, yet it can feel a million miles away.
We are our own harshest critics. We are our own judge and jury. We see our development areas. We ask ourselves to do more, be more and get more. When we are facing challenges, we can completely forget what everyone else can see so clearly.
Other people see the light within us. Other people can often see many possible ways for us to walk forward and out of our own challenges. Sometimes we are just too close to our own issues to have a clear and truthful perspective of them, and to remember what we are capable of.
I wish I could show you, when you are lonely or in the darkness, the astonishing light of your own being – Hafiz
Please remember whenever you are in the darkness, that even though you cannot see your own light, it doesn’t mean that it is not there. You have a deep well of wisdom and strength within you. You may just need support to tap into it.
Here are three short exercises you can do for yourself to put you back in touch with your own inner voice:
1. Advise a Loved One
Name someone you love dearly.
Bring an image of their face into your mind.
Imagine that person is currently facing the exact same difficult situation you are facing.
Now write down what you would tell that person:
- What would you say to help lift them up emotionally?
- What new perspective could you bring to the situation?
- What suggestions might you give them to help them practically shift through their challenges?
Listen to your own words of wisdom. Trust it. Give yourself permission to take your own heart-felt guidance. Follow your light, it will guide you.
2. Revisit Your Triumphs
Recall every major challenge that you have faced in your life before.
Now write down what specific lessons you learnt from those situations that helped you to grow as a person:
- What did you discover about yourself?
- What did you learn about life?
- How has it formed you into the person you are today?
Remember how you survived each one of those, and were able to walk forward despite the adversity, pressure and tests you faced. Your light within carried you. That same light still exists now.
3. Identify the Gift
Reflect on the challenges you face right now.
Now write down what they could possibly be here to teach you. Look for the gold nugget of learning that lies within the situation. There is at least one in every challenge.
- How are the challenges making you stronger and wiser?
- Have are the challenges forcing new found clarity about what you don't like and do like, about what you don't want and do want?
- What are you learning about other people and life?
- Knowing you will emerge out the other side of the challenges, in what areas of your life do you think you could apply the new learning, wisdom and strength for your own success in future?
Remembering that we learn from challenges brings a sense of purpose to what is otherwise a frustrating or painful experience. That learning will end up benefiting you, extending your wisdom and depth of character. In turn this will help you to contribute to anyone you come into contact with in the future. Your light can help other people who might face a similar darkness.
If you are experiencing challenges right now, here is another article to support you – 10 Facts to Radically Shift Your Perspective of Challenges
With love, Bernadette