Sure, nobody has a midlife crisis in their 30's. But I don’t know about you, age is starting to creep up on me.
The biggest evidence of this happens to be on my face. My beard is starting to rebel. (Insert gasping noise here) It’s graying…and fast. I can try to fancy it up to soften the blow by calling it “peppered” or “distinguished”, but the reality is, I’m not getting any younger. I’m 35 years old, and my mirror wants me to (literally) face the music.
However, even though we all might be gracefully or not so gracefully aging, I hope that I continue to strive to live young. Not the mid-life-crisis version of living young, where I end up becoming a cheesy, ill-informed parody of myself that lives in denial of my age. I’m talking about living young in the small details of my life. I’m talking about not giving up my edge. Because after all, the vibrancy of life is in the details, right?
So I like to play my music…LOUD. Like, ‘loud-enough-for-my-pre-teen-son-to-tell-me-to-turn-it-down’ loud. And I’ve been looking at all the high tech surround-sound systems at Costco. Why? Well, because the louder, the better…and maybe, the louder, the younger!?
But funny enough…as I’ve slowly and reluctantly begun to embrace the gray, I’ve also begun to value the quiet. There’s just something about it. I don’t think I could’ve truly appreciated its power in my youth. But quiet is both captivating and beautiful. Helen Keller summed it up best when she said,
“There is beauty in everything. Even in silence and darkness.”
They say that orange is the new black, and while I’m not sure if that’s true, I am saying that quiet is the new loud. It’s important to fight for a few quiet moments every day. A few quiet moments where you can listen to your heart. A few quiet moments where you can communicate with God. A few quiet moments where you can put the whole world on hold. Quiet is the new loud. Quiet is one of the places where we recharge.
Here are three places to find brief moments of quiet every day.
- In your vehicle while you’re on your commute.
Yes, I know. There is no better place on the planet to crank your favorite record to 11, and by all means, I insist that you still do it. But there’s also no better place to steal yourself away for a few minutes before and after your day slaps you in the face. Turn off the music and turn on the quiet. Just absorb the quiet. Your head and heart will thank you for it.
- Just outside your front or back door.
There’s something about the outdoors. There’s something about the expanse of the sky and the feeling of dirt, rock grass and fresh air. God hardwired us with connection to the elements. Maybe it has to do with God giving man his first job as a gardener, I’m not sure. But what I do know is that there’s no quiet like the meager and humble refuge on the other side of your front or back door. Find 5 minutes to step outside and into the quiet.
- On your couch, without your TV, laptop or phone.
They said, “there’s no place like home”, and they’re right. And nothing represents ultimate relaxation in your house more than your couch. It’s the hub of your personal living space, and you need to experience quiet there. It can be hard though. You’re competing against all kinds of entertainment that is screaming for your attention. So turn off the TV, laptop & smartphone…and sit in the middle of your living room in complete silence. Listen to your heart beating. Just for a few minutes. These moments rarely happen anymore. And there’s something magical about them.
If this didn't help you then I found this fun infographic to help you navigate these difficult waters.
How did this make you feel? Where do you find quiet in your life? Let me know in the comments below.