One morning, I woke up tired of being the same person who stays within my comfort zone. I wasn’t taking risks or growing as a person, I became spiritless and in need of a challenge.
Through my meditation, an idea blossomed. I grabbed a pen and a piece of paper and wrote down every one of my fears. I didn’t care whether they were big or small — a fear is a fear. I taped my list of fears to my door where I’d view it every day before leaving my room.
In the beginning, I had a hard time overcoming items on my list. But days turned into weeks and weeks into months. And as the seasons were changing, so was I.
The harder I worked at my list, the more I grew. With every red X I made, I let out a smile. I wasn’t always living life this way. I began this journey in my comfort zone, never wanting to step out. But once I did, it changed my life forever.
1. Understand your weaknesses.
Every person on this planet has fears. A handful of people go after their fears, but most let their fears dictate the person they become. I get it; it’s difficult. To get over your fears, you have to see them firsthand. That's why I wrote them down.
I had around twenty written down and stopped to gaze at the list. I stared at my fears, and they stared back. I had to rise above!
You can conquer your weaknesses. When you create a fear list, you can view firsthand what you need to surmount. No one will understand your weaknesses and fears better than you. The key when starting your fear list is not to try and conquer the entire list. This can be an overwhelming task. Start small, and work your way through the list.
You’ll change as a person. The limitations you perceived for yourself will soon disappear.
2. Develop a plan.
How can you attack your fears if you don’t know what they are? This was my dilemma in the beginning. Once I had them written, I could develop a plan to carry out every single one.
Schedule a time this week to dedicate yourself to your list. With my twenty fears, I categorized them from one to ten. One was a fear I felt as though I could achieve and a ten rating made me tremble.
I took out my notebook, and I wrote how I’d manage each item on the fear list. Through the first few weeks, I conquered ratings one through four on the list. Over the course of a few months, I hit my first category ten fear, and it was easier from there.
What your mind can conceive, you can achieve if you give yourself enough time and planning.
3. Make yourself uncomfortable.
I used to feel uncomfortable and despised leaving my comfort zone. Whether it’s a new relationship or job, your body can sense change. When you sense yourself wanting to go back to where you were before, you know you need to add this discomfort to your fear list.
How many times have you let fear stop you from accomplishing something great? It’s not that you can’t do it, it’s that you’ve never done it.
When you start a new job, it’s very uncomfortable in the beginning. If I were to check back in on you in five years, you’d be a different person because you adapted to the change. Being uncomfortable is a natural part of life, but it doesn’t need to stay. The distinction between an ordinary life and an extraordinary life is found in those who are willing to be uncomfortable.
Yes, I hated this journey in the beginning, but with each new fear being X’d out, I became comfortable with being uncomfortable.
A fear list allows you to understand what perceived limitations and resistance you need to overcome. The more uncomfortable circumstances you meet, the stronger you become.
4. Grow and gain confidence.
The other day I read the book, As A Man Thinketh, by James Allen. If you haven’t read it, I recommend reading it. In one part of the book, Allen talks about fear. He states that when a fear arises inside your mind, you have to tackle it.
Allen said you grow as a person when you have no fears. What he meant was when you achieve an item on your fear list, you perceive the next item as accomplishable. To make it blunt, you will grow in confidence as a person with each new fear you overcome.
You gain a perception that you can achieve! As you go through the list of your fears, you will want to create bigger obstacles. Life becomes a game, and now you can keep score.
5. Tackle new fears.
With each new fear you overcome, it’s time to put another one in its place. I recommend doing this once you have accomplished your first set of fears you have written.
Picture your life in “fear levels.” When you tackle one level, you replace with another fear that is bigger and more challenging. Throughout the course of your life, you will always have fears, but creating a list is the first step to help you overcome.
You will feel a rush as conquering becomes an addiction to see how many fears you can overcome in a lifetime.
So, if you want a challenge in your life, create a fear list.
Trevor is a 19-year-old entrepreneur who’s had eleutheromania ever since he can remember. When he’s not working or studying, you can catch him by the ocean taking photos of the world in which surrounds us. Trevor is the founder of Trevor James Products and co-founder of Become The Lion.