Happiness is a choice, or so it’s been said.
We choose our food, our clothing, our partners, our jobs. But choosing how we how we want to feel, is a bit different.
In my experience, the choice of happiness is more holistic. It's not just being thankful, or just having friends. No. It's a variety of things which eventually foster a lifestyle of happiness.
When I began looking at my own life, I realized of the hundreds of ways to become happier, there are really only a few things we need to remember.
The 4 Habits of Extremely Happy People:
They Are Intentional:
Just like losing weight, eating healthy, waking up early, or any other goal in life, we must be intentional. After all, happiness is not just a choice, it's a lifestyle. People who are happy wake up every morning with a fanatical dedication to positivity. I recommend starting small. Maybe something like, “I will be happy this weekend.”
They Don't Complain:
The next time you want to freak out in verbal complaint towards a person, a situation, or yourself, don’t. Instead, humbly keep it to yourself. You’ll likely diffuse an unhealthy, unhappy situation. But more than that, you’ll reinforce a perspective in your life that you're in control of your emotions.
They Love Their Work:
We spend the majority of our life at work. If you hate your job, you'll hate your life. It's that simple. We all know that changing jobs is not something we do overnight, but happy people are intentional about finding a career where they can be excited to wake up in the morning.
They Hang Out:
There are few better antidotes to unhappiness than close friendships with people who care about you. Sadly, our increasingly individualistic society suffers from impoverished social connections, which some psychologists believe is a cause of today's epidemic levels of depression. The solution… don't sit at home by yourself. Go out to dinner, stay over at a friend's house, have a fire in your backyard, or go have a drink at a bar. Human beings are designed for community. We must fight our culture's urge to isolate and intentionally embrace friends whether it feels normal or not.
What has helped you find happiness? Let me know in the comments below.