Please Stop Judging People. Here’s Why.

To be honest, I struggle with this. As a successful blogger and business person, I find myself feeling or acting like I'm more valuable than others.

But I'm not.

Every human life is worth exactly the same. And any action or behavior or statement that leads anyone to believe otherwise, is wrong.

Culture encourages us to discuss other people's faults. To tear each other down based on looks or the mistakes of our past.

But are we not human? Have we not failed as well? Is determining someone's worth not more than the clothes they wear or the scars on their life? It reminds me of a statement I've read in the Bible, “Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.”

This video is a profound reminder of how much depth we miss when we judge those around us. Will you join me in reconsidering a stranger's value and, possibly, even count them above yourself?


This blog post was written by an independent guest contributor.
Author Name: D Patridge.

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62 Responses

  1. Many people judge their worth by what they do. This is incorrect. It is not what we do that makes us worth something. It is the other way around. We do hard things because we are worth it. With that view in mind, we are never ever a victim of our circumstances but the product of our own choice.

  2. When you judge someone, it’s a reflection of how you feel about yourself, not about the other person. When you think you have more value than someone else, it’s a deep insecurity that surfaces about how much you value yourself.

    1. If I judge someone as being a worthess piece of shit because they’re a murderer, or a rapist, or a child molester, it’s not because that’s secretly how I feel about myself, it what I think of people like them.

  3. Thank you Dale, for making me want to be a better person. I’m working on not judging. And I’m succeeding. Homelessness is one of those things that rips my heart out. Last year on vacation in Chicago I met a homeless girl who was sitting on the sidewalk with her dog. After talking to her, I had to walk away & have a cry. Every day I give thanks for the many, many blessings I have, the comfortable life I lead. It’s not perfect, but it’s so much more than these people have.

  4. Wow – this is amazing. Reminds that once someone assumed all addicts came from terrible backgrounds and were from low-income families. I was working with addicts and those in the welfare system at the time and I looked at him and said, “You know, some addicts I work with are ministers and preachers and may live in your neighborhood.” We never EVER know why someone is where there are – whether the top or the bottom. The common thread is that we were ALL created well and to be loved. I pray that’s enough for us to change our views of one another – whether you judge based on socio-economics, race, age, ability, faith, orientation, body type, whatever…Underneath our best choices and our worst mistakes, we truly are the same and pursued by the same God!

  5. “Every human life is worth exactly the same. And any action or behavior or statement that leads anyone to believe otherwise, is wrong” very profound opinion. The world needs more bloggers to sit behind a computer screen spouting their certified knowledge. Where would we be without social media? Thank you for hitting the streets and making a REAL difference.

  6. i love people if ur mean to me or someone i love i’ll try to figure out why but i’ll in the end figure you deep down still worth loving stop being big fat jerks to eachother dammit xox

  7. I want to challenge anyone who comes across this post to make kits for the homeless. I started doing this a few years ago, particularly around the winter months. You fill a gallon sized ziploc bag with useful and edible items. You can find a lot of ideas online. I include protein bars and lots of other edibles, bottled water and juice, socks, hand warmers, emergency blankets (which are so super small all folded up), wet wipes, toothbrushes and paste, a card with info on places locally that could help… all kinds of stuff, too much to list. You’d be so surprised how much you can fit in a gallon bag. Then? Then you keep these things in your car, your back pack, whatever… and you actually give them to people. In person. To their face. Like they’re actual human beings… because they are. And I know it’s not a lot. I don’t expect it to permanently change someone’s life. But I can imagine that if I were in that position… little things and someone being willing to connect with me for a moment might remind me that I’m still a worthy human being long enough for me to find help to make the changes I needed in my life. I’ve heard a lot of stories of how people ended up homeless. And it really could be anyone. Addiction can strike anyone. Mental illness doesn’t care how much money you made last year or where you went to school. Divorce or death of a loved one can throw people’s lives totally off track. Your job might become irrelevant after twenty years and you may be so specialized in a now non-existent field that you can’t find a new job before you lose your house or apartment. Never believe that it couldn’t be you. And sometimes just being treated with dignity and respect is all it takes for someone to not give up. <3

  8. Dear Dale, I just walked away from a heated conversation who made an ignorant remark about the Thomas Duncan, the Ebola patient who died in the US and it reads: How exactly did a guy living in a filthy shack in Liberia afford an international flight? Just sayin’. #Ebola #ThomasDuncan. When i was about to walk away from the conversation as it didn’t serve any good, i came across your article, i read it and shared it to the same person who made so many degrading comments. I hope he/she will learn a lesson. Thank you.

  9. I watched this twice. Whenever I walk past homeless people, or anybody I saw that needed help, I always thought, “Oh, there’ll be some other people that can help him,” I started crying. I’m not going to say how many blessing I have, or how bad I feel for those people. But after watching this, I realized that instead of walking past those people and thinking that same comment, or being with my friends and trying to act cool, I should have swallowed my pride and at least tried to help. I don’t know about anyone else, but whenever I walked past a homeless person, I would always try to ignore them, this may not sound very real to you, but I would always have to struggle not to cry. I would walk past them, and not even try looking, but every time I did that, I felt a rush of guilt and somewhat of sadness fall over me. We need more people like this in cruel world, and today, I discovered that maybe, after watching this, I’ll be able to become someone like this.

  10. The majority of homeless in our city are meth/heroin addicts. I’m afraid to approach them. How do you help someone strung out on drugs? What is the answer to homelessness?

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