What are the recurring patterns or themes in your life that aren't working for you? What challenges keep playing like a broken record in your life?
The access to living your fullest life, reaching your potential, aligning to your soul purpose (indeed hearing your soul purpose calling you and acting upon it!) requires you to free yourself of baggage that doesn't serve you.
This baggage we speak of is also known as your limiting beliefs. You have beliefs, negative and positive, and the negative/limiting beliefs are a contradiction to your soul purpose, a contradiction to the pure wonder that you are.
When we are born, our soul comes into this life with lessons to learn, with challenges to overcome. For each of us it is different. For some it will be disability or health. For some it will be relationships or money. For others it will be emotions that restrict us such as fear or anger, hurt or sadness… the list is endless. You come with your own unique things to learn, that’s what makes each of us so different, facing such different experiences of life with our individual perceptions. There is no way to reason with our intellect how one person can be born with such affluent and seemingly perfect life circumstances and why the next person can be born with such poor and desolate life circumstances. After all, from a ‘Law of Attraction' perspective, how on earth does a little baby choose to attract negative events and happenings into its very early life circumstances?
One perspective is that a soul is born into life by choosing the circumstances that will most effectively aid it’s expansion, learning and expression. Each life will be different, until a soul has encountered all it needs to.
Setting aside the reason your soul came into this life in the first place, once you are here, you accumulate beliefs. Over your childhood and adult years you have countless experiences, you hear countless things from all whom you encounter and you assimilate all of this information to define your beliefs about yourself and about life. Each time something happens, you add to or create another belief. These beliefs then become the tinted glasses through which you see the world. This is why each of us has different beliefs, different opinions, different perspectives on ourselves, life and how the world works. We have formed beliefs based on what we know to be true in our own lives.
For example, let's say hypothetically that you have a bad relationship. Your companion leaves and says, “I don’t love you anymore”. You have another bad relationship. Your companion leaves you and says, “I don’t love you anymore”. You then start to believe that you are not loved and that you are not loveable, and you believe that as soon as anyone does love you it will only be temporary because at some point they will decide they don’t love you anymore and then they will leave, just like all the other times. This is a limiting/negative belief that will not serve you well in future and will quietly sabotage you. The present is never defined by the past, unless we allow it to be.
In order for your soul to expand and grow in your lifetime, and for you to reach for the stars and achieve whatever it is that you desire for yourself in this life, you must free yourself of limiting/negative beliefs that hold you locked into the patterns in your life which don’t work for you. See what doesn't work for you, and consciously choose to change beliefs to ones that will serve you, uplift you and allow you to flourish in this life.
For example, if you desire a loving relationship, yet your experience in the past has not been that, and you now hold a strong belief that you are not going to have a loving relationship, then you must identify and clear that negative belief in order to allow in the loving relationship you desire. The world mirrors your beliefs, thoughts and feelings, your reality creates around you in response to these inputs. Therefore your beliefs must align to what you desire, and not just on a conscious level alone. It is not always as easy as simply affirming to yourself that you are loveable if you have a deep belief that you are not.
So then, you might ask, “How do I find these negative beliefs that block me and are holding me back? I don’t know what they are”.
Here is the good news. Limiting/negative beliefs that are deeply held and are major blocks in our life, will usually play out in a theme. Whilst held deeply within you, they create a pattern in your life where if you review your past experiences you may see recurring behaviours/circumstances which point you to your limiting beliefs.
If you look back at your life you may see some areas of your life that work really well and other areas that don’t work so well. It might be career, it might be relationships, it might be love, it might be money, it might be health. Consider – what in my life hasn’t been working well? Then recall all those instances of it ‘not working well’ and look at what happened – write down what you believe about yourself and those situations. Do this for each and every instance of life ‘not working well’. If you do this very honestly, and you may do this alone or with some help from someone you trust, you may start to see a pattern/trend occurring. The pattern/trend is the pointer to your beliefs.
Carefully consider this – if it’s your beliefs (and flow on thoughts/feelings) that create your outcomes, then the patterns of things ‘not working well’ in your life are simply the results (the footprints) that come from your beliefs. If you use the recurring patterns in your life to work backwards to dig down to find the limiting beliefs, you then have access to change those beliefs and of course then create new results!
And… the interesting thing about life is that when you realise your life challenges are actually part of the reason you're here (your soul purpose to experience and overcome) then those challenges look more purposeful and intriguing. It can even be exciting to face those challenges and conquer them. Sweet good things lie on the other side of those challenges. From the greatest challenges (and breakdowns) come our greatest breakthroughs.
With love, Bernadette
Bernadette Logue (known to everyone as “B”) is the Leader of The Daily Positive, a Transformation Life Coach and the author of 3 personal growth books – guiding you on how to master your mind, to live consciously and soul-aligned. To receive regular coaching resources and support, join B in EvolveHQ, The Daily Positive’s private personal growth membership and community. To find out more about B click here.