2 Ways to Deal with Jealousy Positively

Jealousy. The emotion we just can’t help but feel when someone we know (or maybe even don’t know!) is doing better than us in some way. Whether it’s a co-worker getting a promotion, your best friend getting married before you, or even your sister losing the baby weight so quickly, we all get jealous. It’s human nature.

The problem with jealousy is we don’t use it in the right way. We often sulk, complain, and just sit there creating negativity within ourselves and for those around us. Meanwhile, we do nothing to improve our own situation.

Our normal reaction to jealousy is negative and often expressed by talking badly about the person we are jealous of and trying to diminish their light in some way. Jealousy can cause us to do and say things we don’t like. It turns us into people we don’t want to be, and by doing so it hides our own light!

But what if we started looking at jealousy in a different way? In a more positive way. Rather than creating negative energy that brings you and those around you down, you can use jealousy to create a better life…

Ways to Deal with Jealousy Positively

When we allow jealousy to be a negative emotion in our life it keeps us from being who we want to be and who we are meant to be.

While most people get jealous and don’t use this powerful emotion in the right way, this is mainly because we’ve been programmed to think of jealousy as a negative emotion. One we shouldn’t have. One we should hide and try to avoid.

Unfortunately, we can’t avoid jealousy. But instead of looking at jealousy as an unappealing characteristic we want to avoid, we could instead be powerful and embrace this emotion and use it to our advantage.

If we flipped our opinion of jealousy from something that is negative to a positive, we can use it to better ourselves.

When looked at in a positive light, jealousy can motivate us, inspire us, and show us what is possible in our own life. We just have to train our brains to think of jealousy in that light.

So how can you do this?

The starting point is to change your opinion of jealousy from a negative to a positive one. You can make this shift anytime you feel the slightest bit of jealousy by asking yourself two simple questions.

1. Ask yourself… “WHY am I jealous?”

There’s something inside of you stirring up when you become jealous. It usually means the person has something you want or has done something you want to do.

Jealousy is an impactful indicator you are meant to do something more with your life.

Jealous of your co-worker’s promotion? Why? Is it because you wanted the promotion? Understanding the root cause of your jealousy can give you a clear indication of areas in your life needing improvement or calling you into your higher potential.

You may not want the actual promotion, but maybe you wish your income was higher or you want to play a more important role in your company. Really digging down deep and understanding why you are jealous can help point you in the direction of what your next step in life needs to be.

Jealousy is a big indicator that you’re craving more in life. When you find yourself jealous of another person figure out what is causing the emotion and ask yourself, “What area of my life am I wanting to improve?”

When you think of jealousy in this way you can start using it to create a life you love.

2. WHAT do I do with my jealousy?

When you understand the root cause of your jealousy then you can develop a plan to move through the jealousy and create a life in alignment with what you truly want. Getting clear on what causes a jealous reaction allows you to do some soul searching and figure out what your next step should be.

Jealousy is the universe giving you a clear signal that the desires in your heart are possible and you should use that emotion as inspiration to go for your dreams.

Harness jealousy’s energy and start creating a life you love. You just have to take the necessary actions to achieve what the person you are jealous of has already achieved. And guess what? If someone else can do it, then believe me, you can do it too. The person you are jealous of is one hundred percent proof that success is possible if you take action and go after your dream. Jealousy is then turned into motivation and proof that you can achieve your goals.

Use jealousy as an opportunity to be inspired and happy for other people’s good fortune and success. Instead of being bitter and resentful, learn to empower and encourage others. Even those doing better than you. This creates powerfully positive energy for yourself and others, which supports positive outcomes.

When jealousy does creep up inside of you, flip it into something empowering and figure out what is being revealed to you in that moment.

I encourage you to use the positive side of jealousy in your life.

The negative side of jealousy does nothing but derail you from achieving your own fullest potential in life. We all deserve to live our best life and using jealousy in a positive way can motivate and encourage you. It can help you create a life you love.

Let me know in the comments… in what areas do you see jealousy the most? Can you use these strategies to turn this negative emotion into a positive one that supports and empowers you?

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2 Ways to Deal with Jealousy Positively


25 Responses

  1. Ashley, this is so poignant and powerful. It’s very well-written and inspiring. So proud of you!

  2. Nicely written, Ashley! This is a subject that is not always comfortable to address or acknowledge. Your approach opens the feeling and word itself to a point of understanding ways to deal with and actually appreciate what is often considered negative. Very proud of you!

    1. Thanks! I truly believe we can look at any situation and emotions we feel about those situation in a positive light. So glad you enjoyed the article.

  3. This is great! Your breakdown of why and what are so simple, but help dig a little deeper into the feeling. I really struggle putting the positive side to jealousy into words to help those experiencing it. I will be using your questions now on to help others grow, too!

    1. So glad you can use this Whitney! It is a simple approach but I’ve found it can dramatically change the way people look at their situation for the better.

  4. This is so inspiring and motivating , and it makes me remember that I am here on earth for a purpose that I should fulfill

  5. We have a heap of couch surfers stay with us and I get so jealous of their adventures. It can be hard recognising that we are having our own adventure and others are jealous of us. I try to be positive tho like you say. I am happy for our couch surfers… just ultra jealous haha

  6. Great post! So many people want to pretend jealousy isn’t a thing, but we all feel it at times. Its important to know how to properly handle it!

    1. Glad you enjoyed the article! We all want to brush off jealousy and not talk about it, but if handled properly, jealousy can be used to our advantage.

  7. I love Ashley’s view on how to make our tendency for jealousy into a positive thing to improve ourselves. This is life-changing!

  8. What a great post! Jealousy is so unnecessary but so many get caught up in it and their lives are impacted far beyond that instance. We should instead be happy for the other person and celebrate their wins and accomplishments and use that to motivate us to working harder towards our own goals.

    1. So happy you liked the post! My main goal is to lift and encourage others and often jealousy can keep us from doing that. But if looked in a different light, jealousy can help empower others while inspiring us to go for the things we want.

  9. This help me figure out what was bothering me about my husbands ex. wife. I am working on it.
    Thank you so much.

  10. Money. Jealous of others income but mostly inherited money. Makes me crazy. I get eaten up alive. I understand money is no magic pill but it makes situations so much easier for others. Poof! Like magic but not for me………..

    1. Here are 2 powerful free resources to help you create a shift in your money mindset, energy about money, and to shift your paradigm so that you no long feel “eaten alive” by those thoughts and feelings. I hope you enjoy these and they are useful for you! With warmest wishes, Bernadette
      MONEY MINDSET AUDIO – Listen daily for 30 days (or longer if you wish) – https://www.thedailypositive.com/300-money-affirmations-audio/
      3 STEP PROCESS FOR CREATING CHANGE IN YOUR MONEY MINDSET – Video – https://www.thedailypositive.com/3-critical-steps-abundant-money-mindset/

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