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One thing I've noticed about people who WANT to stop judging others, is that when they realize they're judging, they feel awful about it!

Beating yourself up about judging others just creates a whole other negative pattern for you to have to deal with.

In this Daily Inspiration video, I'm giving you 1 vital perspective as the foundation of how to stop judging others.

Plus, we'll run through a super simple process you can use to “reset” yourself if you do notice you've fallen into judgment.

Before we dive into this video on how to stop judging others, I just want to say…

You are an amazing human being that you are even here taking the time to care enough about yourself and others to WANT to stop judging in the first place.

If the world was filled with consciously aware and willing human beings like you, it would be a much more peaceful and balanced place.

All positive change starts with intent. You intend to stop judging others, and that is what counts the most! I respect that and I honor you.

Now, let's dive in! Grab a pen and paper so you can take notes if you wish…

How to Stop Judging Others

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16 Responses

  1. Do you have any advice for how to deal with another family member who is constantly judging others and expecting you to go along with it? I spend a lot of time with my elderly mother to care for her, and she loves to live in judgement of others. In public she will nudge me to point out others for different things, usually being very overweight. She is obvious about it and I find it embarrassing. Thank you, Janis

  2. Your message about judgement came to me at a perfect time to help me deal with hurtful feelings concerning my family. I am aware of my “judge-ness” in this area of my life. Thank you.

  3. These are truly invaluable resources! I love these practical videos…with real world techniques & helpful phrases for my self help toolbox! I’m so glad I found you on the internet.

    My only question regarding judgement is don’t we sometimes HAVE to judge in certain situations in a way that sometimes points out how someone is showing up in an unacceptable way? I am a new English teacher to foreign students working alongside their usual teacher today who was overtalking her students, monopolizing the dialogue when the students are supposed to be speaking, crossing boundaries on topics (oversharing her own political & other opinions), failing to correct students and personalizing so that all dialogue came back to her!

    I felt it was my duty to speak up once today ( and did so once to clarify a point about word usage that I felt needed more clarification) & she didn’t appear to appreciate it & continued her ways.

    I judged her today, BIG time! Any advice or insight?

    1. Hey Ruby, definitely and great question! Yes, there’s a difference between providing constructive criticism/feedback for the point of improving a situation where you have a responsibility to do so, versus standing on the sidelines negatively judging someone. All leaders, parents, teachers, employers, managers etc have a responsibility to guide people to positive ways of living, to higher performance, to healthy and optimal behavior etc. There is a “vibe” difference between being judgmental and providing constructive feedback. I hope that makes sense. I find that people will always react negatively when they get a message that comes from judgment or from negative criticism delivered in an unhelpful way. However, if helpful feedback is given in a positive way, even if direct and assertive where necessary, there is more chance the person will receive it and take it on board. It doesn’t mean they will like it! Some people (in fact many) find it extremely difficult to take any type of feedback and take it as a personal attack. Just observe if this happens and try not to get looped into that cycle with them. You can only do your best to provide helpful feedback and constructive points for helping everyone involved, and if the person reacts negatively and defends, it is more about their own way to processing this type of information. The key is to deliver it in a conscious, calm way, with empathy in order to get the best outcome possible.

  4. What’s the difference between judging and not liking how someone is treating me or acting when they are with me? For example, children with inappropriate behavor.

    1. Hi Helen, great question. It’s a fine line. One is observation and noticing facts. The other is layering our opinion on top. E.g that child is upset, or that child is behaving badly, or that person is saying rude things. These are factual observations in my view. But if we then go on to say “They shouldn’t be acting that way. They’re wrong for being that way. They should XYZ…” we are starting to judge them. I always love to remember “I am in no position to judge, as it’s a quick reminder we all have challenges, and often when someone is behaving poorly or acting out, it’s because of issue/s they have, which rather than asking for judgment, require help, compassion, patience, tolerance, boundaries, clear communication or other types of conscious responses. I hope this in some way helps. Love, B

  5. Thank you for this “How to Stop Judging” video… very practical and perfect timing as usual 🙂

    You are absolutely right – i fall in my own eyes, when i find myself judging others;
    It is so counter-productive, even for the very ego that triggered the judging in the first place.

    It is particularly embarrassing when i find myself judging someone behind their back to somebody else…
    i feel terrible – but how to stop mid-sentence??

    I just do a retake on it, by saying something nice about them, to counterbalance my negative comments.
    But by then, I have already polluted the Universe with my bad vibe and also infected the other soul!

    Do you have any tips for these specific scenarios:
    1. What to do when i find myself judging someone to somebody else, when i am in the middle of it?
    2. I usually judge people who i feel are constantly judging me, despite my honest efforts to be authentic, while being fair to myself… it’s like my “retaliation” mechanism. This i find is particularly hard.

    1. Hi Sue
      Thanks and yes I hear you. I love to use Ho’oponopono (Hawaiian healing/reconciliation prayer) prayer anytime I notice I’m judging (I’m sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you, I love you). If you’re not familiar with it, you can check out Zero Limits by Dr Hew Len & Joe Vitale.
      If you find yourself mid sentence judging, just take a breath, pause, and say “Perhaps there’s another way of seeing this person/situation”. Do that in the conversation with whoever you’re with. What a powerful pause and redirection, healing to yourself and inspiring to others!
      Here’s a video on how to deal with being judged by others…
      https://www.thedailypositive.com/being-judged/
      Love
      B

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