One thing about life is for certain – change is a given! So the sooner you accept the need for change, as a healthy and inherent part of life, the more fluidly and peacefully your life will unfold.
The problem many people have is that they linger too long in situations when change is exactly what is needed – not changing directions either because they don't realize that it's time to change or they resist the change that's needed, preferring to stay with what is familiar – even if that familiarity is painful and not working!
We're strange ol' things us human beings!
A valuable life lesson I've learnt on my journey so far, is that you're far better and wiser to take control of your own life and situation by knowing when it's time to make positive changes, and then proactively making that change happen for yourself. Because if you don't, life has a funny way of FORCING change upon you!
In this article are 6 signs that it's time to change direction. That “change in direction” might be a major change – in your health, finances, career, relationships, what you do, how you do it. OR, it might be a minor change, e.g. a small adjustment in the way you're approaching something.
If you know the signs it's time to change, you can quickly get on-board and ride with the natural flow of your life, instead of being oblivious or resistant (which only ends up leading you into suffering).
Grab a pen and paper, and take a note – which of these 6 signs below are you currently noticing in your own life right now, because these are helpful ways to understand when it's time to change directions…
1. You're Forcing & Nothing's Happening!
If you've been pushing and forcing something, and it's just not working, it's time to stand back and reassess.
Often when we're heading down the wrong path, and it's time to change, we will realize because it feels like banging our head against a brick wall. The dead end is trying to tell us something.
You'll notice nothing seems to be happening, no matter how much energy and effort you put in.
You'll notice yourself frustrated, and trying to do more, push harder and yet still nothing's happening or working for ya!
STOP. REASSESS. It might be time to change directions completely, choosing a whole new path. Or, it might be that you're just going about things the wrong way – meaning your direction is right but you need a fresh, new approach (a slight adjustment in what you're doing and/or how you're doing it).
2. Things Are Falling Apart Around You
When it feels like everything is falling apart around you, like a perfect storm is happening, have faith.
This is often a sign that it's time to change directions.
It can feel like life is beating down on you, but remember…
“Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together” – Marilyn Monroe
You might not be able to see it from where you stand right now, but life might just be helping you to clear away what you no longer need, in order to make room for something else.
Even when it's painful and you're losing circumstances, resources, things or people you really want… there is a divine order in your life.
This divine order comes into play when it's time for you to flow onwards and evolve to the next level spiritually, physically, mentally and emotionally.
3. You Consistently Don't Feel Good
Bottom line – life is about how you feel.
Irrespective of what is going on around you, everything is a feeling experience.
If you feel peace and happiness, you're on track.
If you consistently don't feel good, it's time to take note! Often people are so used to not feeling good, it becomes “normal.”
You'll know it's time to make an adjustment in your life if the only time you do feel good is when you're “escaping” – e.g. going on holiday, drinking, drugs, zoning yourself out in whatever ways you might do with “numbing habits”.
If this is the case, be conscious not to judge yourself or get down about it. We all go through times in life where this happens. You're not alone. But it really is time to stand back and say… “I need to get real with myself, and make some changes so I can create peace and happiness as my new normal.”
4. You're Getting Signs from the Universe!
Sometimes the Universe sends you signs trying to get your attention, asking you to make a change.
(Note: “the Universe” is often referred to by people differently, using different words but with shared meaning. e.g. life, Universe, Creator, Source, Divinity, God – where a higher power, something bigger than all of us is calling us forward to live with more ease, grace, faith and flow, in greater alignment to that which we inherently belong).
When you get these signs, it's not necessarily that there is something “wrong” with your present situation, but rather that something else is awaiting you… something important, something better, something for your soul journey to go to the next level.
It might be for your career, health or wellbeing, your finances or relationships.
Simply pay attention to…
- Recurring “themes” showing up – if you notice patterns in daily life, like something is trying to get your attention
- The same types of words, messages, ideas coming at you (from anywhere – people, what you hear, or what you see around you)
- Coincidences and synchronicities happening.
5. Your Intuition is Nudging & You're Ignoring
There's no doubt about it – if your intuition has been telling you something needs to change, then it's 500% time for change.
The trouble is… most people don't like change, and try to avoid it. But resistance is futile.
Change is part of your inherent nature as a human being, and all of life around you is constantly changing. It's the way of the Universe. So you might as well go with it…
Your intuition (also known as gut instinct, nudges, your inner voice, or hunches), is part of how you are guided on your life journey.
You are guided out of what doesn't serve you and into what does.
If you don't like what your intuition is telling you, chances are you are running from it, ignoring it, and maybe even arguing with it. You might be rationalizing your way out of it – convincing yourself it's not right, or you're too busy to address it, or one day you'll get around to it.
WORD UP… follow your intuition now and you'll save yourself unnecessary delays, pain and suffering.
Your intuition is never wrong.
6. Your Body is Reacting
When something isn't right in your life, your body might react.
Think about it… when it's time to change, chances are you're not 100% settled or happy in your mental and emotional state. Hence why it's time for change!
And your mental and emotional systems are contained in the vessel of your body. It's like your body is the container, and your thoughts and feelings are like energy cycling around inside the container.
Difficult thoughts and feelings, e.g stress, fear, anxiety, worry, upset, tension, doubt, unhappiness, are disruptive energy, and your body does its very best to try to COPE with these disruptions.
But your body is smart! It will start to give you warning signs that something isn't right. You may start to notice things “going wrong” in your body.
Stand back and question… “What is my body trying to helpfully tell me?”
It could well be that something “random” happening in your body, while seemingly unrelated to your thoughts/feelings and seemingly unrelated to some situation in your life, is actually DIRECTLY RELATED.
Perhaps your body is just reacting as it tries to cope. This is a handy sign to call your attention to the need for positive change.
By mastering your mind, taking control of your thoughts, learning how to process your feelings, and/or making outer changes in your life situation, you can also support yourself into better health and wellbeing at the same time.
If you've noticed that any of these signs are applicable to you, it's time to reflect, bolster yourself and make some positive decisions for your life.
- Write down which signs apply to you.
- Notice what particular areas of life these signs apply to – what specifically in your life needs changing?
- Is it big change – a complete direction shift?
- Or are there small adjustments that need to be made to what you're doing and how you're doing it?
- What action could you take to start making positive change happen?
- Think about the most obvious FIRST step in terms of action… don't worry about the whole path and everything you'd need to do in order to create the change…
To make change happen don't worry about ALL the steps that you'd need to take. Don't focus on the WHOLE path. Just take 1 small step forward
I'd love to hear from you, so head on down to the comments section below and leave me a note! Let me know what you've got going on in your life right now, and any questions you might have. I look forward to connecting with you.
With love, Bernadette