Every day we wake up ready to go into the world, looking to experience our optimal type of day.
We want peace and happiness. We want productivity and success. We want rewards and fulfillment.
And we plan as best we can to create that type of day we want.
We can create the right mindset and energy before stepping into the world.
We can take focused action toward the results we want.
We can choose where to go, who to be with and what to do.
These are all things we can control.
But, there’s something we can’t control, and it can have a major impact on ALL the things we want to achieve and experience.
That something is OTHER PEOPLE!
Dealing with the Negativity of Others
We quickly learn in life that no matter how zen we choose to be, other people might cross our path and bring their negative energy into our zone.
We also very quickly learn that if we get upset about their negativity, if we buy into it, if we judge them, if we resist and say it “shouldn’t be this way” … then we end up suffering and in negativity with them!
So one of the best things we can learn on our personal growth journey is the ART OF NOT REACTING TO NEGATIVITY.
It’s an art form because it takes practice, and grace.
Our human nature tends to be that we drop down into negativity unless we consciously choose to keep ourselves up above it.
When someone brings their negative energy your way, here are the 2 important things to remember:
- It’s like fishing. They throw out the fishing line with negativity bait on a hook. Will you be the fish who isn’t aware and bites, taking the bait and ending up in a tug of war? Or will you be the wise fish who sees the bait and keeps on swimming past it?
- If you give your energy to negativity and negative people, you’re flushing it down the toilet. Your energy is so precious, and each day you only have a certain amount of that energy to give to the world. So you have to be super smart about what and who you give your precious energy to. If you give it to negativity, you can’t give it to your goals and dreams!
So, in order for us to experience the type of peaceful, happy, productive and successful day we want, we have to learn the art of not reacting to negativity if it crosses our path.
We get prepared in advanced, so we can masterfully deflect it.
The Art of Not Reacting to Negative People – 3 Simple Steps
Here’s a 3 step process to help you practice non-reaction…
1. See it Coming
You know what negativity looks and sounds like. So be present and aware for when it crosses your path. If you see it coming (like a baited hook dangling in the water!), you have a chance to stand back and breathe before biting! You can instead make a conscious choice not to engage with that negativity.
2. It’s Not About You
Always remind yourself that other people’s negativity is not about you. It’s a reflection of something that is going on inside their mind and emotional system, and it’s being projected around you or toward you.
Too often we get tangled up in other people’s negativity because our egos take it personally and react to their behavior or words. Rather – keep accurate perspective that someone who is being negative is just a fellow human being going through pain. It’s not about you.
3. Wish them Peace & Happiness
The quickest way to non-reaction and inner peace when you’re witnessing someone being negative around you or toward you, is to wish them peace and happiness.
This doesn’t mean saying out loud to their face, “I wish you peace and happiness”.
It’s a mantra you say inside yourself.
This is a practice of conscious and spirited living to say within your own mind and heart, “I wish them peace and happiness. I wish them peace and happiness. I wish them peace and happiness…”
I know you don’t want anyone on this planet to suffer, not you or any other person who crosses your path. And using this mantra helps you to sit in the energy of forgiveness, compassion and detachment.
Bernadette Logue (known to everyone as “B”) is the Leader of The Daily Positive, a Transformation Life Coach and the author of 3 personal growth books – guiding you on how to master your mind, to live consciously and soul-aligned. To receive regular coaching resources and support, join B in EvolveHQ, The Daily Positive’s private personal growth membership and community.