I doubt there is a better place to learn about authentic attraction than in the middle of a marriage.
Marriage is one of the few places you can find raw truth, passionate love, and perspective beyond physical features.
Veronica and I have been married for five years and I think I've heard just about every tip and trick to up my score on the attraction meter. But what's fascinating is how easy some of them are. And consequently, how lazy I can be. 😉
1. The Power of Regular Haircuts
While my life long dream is to have a ponytail with a beard, I am shocked when I look in the mirror after a haircut. I look clean… and then I wonder why I waited so long to go to the barber. Hair is one of those parts of the human body that can look incredible or nasty. Women desire cleanliness and regular haircuts are an easy way to advance your attraction meter.
2. The Secret of Cologne
I call it “love at first sniff.” In animals and humans, scent plays a larger role in attraction than you might realize. We are good, however, at generalizing smells: edible, toxic, irritating, sensual or in my case, a whole evil category called “peanut butter” (i'm addicted). In a recent poll of over 1,000 women, results show ladies are willing to be closer to men based on smell alone. And shockingly, it plays a major role in the chances of a first date. So pick up an expensive bottle of peanut butter… I mean cologne and give yourself a spray once per day.
3. Suits For Women Are Like Lingerie For Men
I heard this statement while listening to my wife and her friends discussing men's style. Jackpot! I wear a suit around the house all the time now. Not really. While a suit might not be a regular garb for your lifestyle, throw it into the mix every now and again. But make sure it fits and matches. The influence of a strong collar, shiny shoes, a nice belt, stylish socks, and a classy watch are almost as powerful as the suit itself.
4. Exercising Your Daily Gentleman
Ever noticed good looking women with mediocre guys? It's likely connected to his ability to harness his “inner-gentleman”. There's a good book for married couples titled “Sex Begins in The Kitchen” which discusses how intimacy for a women starts with an emotional connection. Having a great conversation, cleaning up the house or opening the car door are good places to start.
5. Healthy Lifestyle
The pursuit of a healthy body and diet are a good sign of self stewardship. I'm not talking about body-mastering to the point of fitness addiction either. Just basic healthy decisions in your normal life. Women are often attracted to maturity and responsibility, and by maintaining this type of lifestyle, you are showing her how much you care about the elements of life which truly matter.
6. Prayer Can Be Sexy?
For my marriage, my wife loves to see me close to God. To have the discipline to wake up each morning and lay our family's health and protection in front of the Lord is a sign of humility and meekness. She feels protected when she knows my heart is chasing after righteousness and the things which are wholesome and pure.
7. Showers Solve Most Problems
If my wife had her way, I would take a shower twice per day. Who has time for that? And even though I struggle in this department, I try to get in at least once per day. Men, if you're an every other day bather, you might want to double up and see if your attraction meter doubles as well.
So ladies… If your man woke up, prayed, exercised, got a haircut, took a shower, put on a stylish outfit, sprayed some cologne, and told you how beautiful you were all in the same day, how would it make you feel?